Eating Myself Beautiful: Stop Making Excuses for Not Eating Right


Meet Annette Larkins! She ate her way to a beautiful body and life!

Inspiring! Watch her story

I discovered her a few weeks ago while browsing online.

So as some may know I started my health journey last week. I started out with a three week detox which consists of me becoming a vegan for three weeks (too bad I snuck in a really tiny piece of chicken this week..but no worries here!). Read about my journey here and the detox I’m following in my previous post.

After my first week, I lost 5 pounds!!! But, in return I have gained a whole new way of being in the world!
Now, I read food labels like nobody’s business, can turn down a high fat and caloried meal in seconds, and have not felt sluggish in a week and a half!

I am convinced that you eat your way to good health and a better life. Although I am not pushing you to make this switch becuase I did. But, if Annette can do it, then I know we all can too!! It is proof in the pudding. After reading more about clean eating and watching weight loss stories on Youtube I refuse to give up. I can do this.

As I watch my body and mind transform I couldn’t be happier. It is not always easy I will admit, but it is the best decision and commitment I’ve ever made for myself. The ability to take care of oneself is an act of empowerment that leads to a more fabulous life.

If I want to be an ageless beauty (this has always been my dream…I especially want to be featured in Essence one day at 60 looking like I am 20! Annette, pictured above, reminds me that this is possible! I will continue on my journey to eat myself beautiful!!!

Are You Ready to Detox Your Mind, Body, and Soul for a Healthier Life?

What does detox mean to you? What do you need to let go of this year in order to live a fabulous and empowered life?

Detox to me is letting things go. Giving things up. Moving forward. Divorcing self from the past, and marrying the future!

Where I Went Wrong

This is my hope for the new year. Tomorrow I will officially start a lifestyle change. I am starting a journey to better my health and life. This is something I have wanted to do for a while, but just was not in the right mental space to do it. Two years ago I worked with a nutritionist, worked out daily, and changed my eating for 3 months. I saw no results so I gave up! Then I went on to rapidly gain 40 pounds in about 6-8 months, which you can imagine was really weird! Can you imagine how I felt?

Ready to Let Go

I am officially ready to let go of all of that excess baggage. If you want to fly, you must let go of the s@!*% that weighs you down! I’ve said this before in a previous post on finding the love I deserved. The same is true here. If I want to fly I mean really FLY then I must give something up to get to the life I want.  To get to my happy, healthy, whole place (which is where regal realness lies).

Why I Chose My Health FIRST!

My mind FINALLY changed for four reasons: I’ve been wanting a total body makeover from head to toe for years now, the new year is here,starting my natural hair journey last summer prompted me to want to be just as mindful as what I put on my head as what I put into my body, and starting this blog as made me want to be an even better woman! I decided I wanted to love my body even more than I already do. When you love your body, it loves you back.


Biggest Loser!  

Therefore, tomorrow marks the first day of a fitness challenge I have joined with my blogger friends. It is called the BLM Fitness Challenge, which lasts from Jan 7-April 7, 2013. Participants all entered with $10 (money collected will be given to the biggest loser–which I hope will be me) and you can use any method you want to get fit!!!

Lose Weight Without Dieting or Working Out

I have chosen to use JJ Smith’s DEM (Detox, Eat, and Move) System. Last summer, I purchased her book, Lose Weight Without Dieting or Working Out, read it, and swept in under a rug somewhere. A month ago I pulled it back out, re-read it and now I’M READY! Yesterday, I stocked up on everything I need for the 3 week DETOX phase  (including supplements, green drink mix, protein shake mix, fresh fruits & veggies, whole grain everything, nuts, oils, etc) and ordered additional items from

Check out the cover here (peep this…JJ is in her 40’s and she looks so good!)


I am so glad I am doing this NOW! It really took this long for me to make a change because I had to mentally embrace this lifestyle change, and fully want it more then anything else. I WANT IT! I am committed! I will chart my journey on here, and I will share new healthy and good recipes I make.

This Journey Is Really About You As Much As It Is About Me

This journey is about more than me. It is allowing me to detox my body and rid it of toxins, and then allowing me to provide it with nutritious, clean and balanced, whole, and healthy foods that fuel my body. It is also allowing me to detox my mind and soul. Allowing me to let go off any addictions to food present, any emotional baggage that needs to go, and anything else they may be holding me back as a result of my weight.

It is also allowing me to be an example! My ultimate goal is to become healthy and fabulous while inspiring other women of color to give this journey a try. As I share I hope to inspire you. As I share I hope to encourage you. As I share I hope to break down everything  to educate you.  I hope to go through trial and error to make even (clean and balance) eating seem tasty for you! I simply want you to know that if I can do it and achieve so can you.

This health journey is for me and it is for you. Stay tuned for more!

Inspirational Websites I Love and Recommend:

Black Girl’s Guide to Weight Loss, Black Women Losing Weight, Black Weight Loss Success, and  Dr. Oz    offers many tips and even a TV show!


Do you have health or fitness goals for this year?

What methods are you using?

Have you ever felt like me before?

Boost Your Apperance Girl: 3 Ways to Dress for Your Body Type

563152_261406470622140_164807823615339_508066_2060571542_n I’ve always been a curvy girl, but in recent years I have gained a pound too many if you catch my drift. Now while I am absolutely in love with myself and in the process of switching to a healthier lifestyle; I still love to look fabulous regardless of what size I am. There are tips and tricks to doing this, and you might find them helpful too if you are in the same boat as me. Note: This is not a substitute for living a healthy lifestyle!


Slip on a body shaper! Get fitted for bras. Most women are wearing the wrong size bra!!!

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 I will be honest neither one are cheap of they are of GOOD QUALITY! My best ones cost anywhere from $25-$30 but they work wonders!! You can find them in most large department stores in the under garment section. You  Kohl’s and Sears have affordable prices for everyday women.

Some ladies refuse to squeeze into body shapers these due to comfort-ability but to that I say: suck it up!  Giggle! No really. You will get use to it over time, and you fall in love with the instant slimming you see in the mirror. P.S. You don’t have to wear one everyday.

This is my body type. I love it! I have mastered how to rock curves with let's figure out your type....

This is my body type. I love it! I have mastered how to rock curves with let’s figure out your type….

WORK YOUR BODY TYPE: Assess Which One You Are?

Do a GOOGLE search for the best items to fit your body type. For example, I have a whole lot of hips! So I know that I am a pear shape. So I found this picture to show me a visual of celebs with my same body type:

This gives me an easy way to search for clothes and pictures that would look the most flattering on my body!

 Take the Body Type Quiz to determine your body type!

So all in all, muffin tops are not cute nor are too small clothes. Neither are you trying to wear all the latest fads and trends if they don’t look good on your body type. But, the key to looking your best always is to work what you got—but in a classy way!


:::BONUS::: — Here is a great episode of Dr. Oz Secrets of Plus Sized Models where Plus Size models discuss their secrets to looking fabulous and slim at any size!!! They offer some really good tips and tricks girls!

Disclaimer: This post is meant for short term use, and in no way shape or form does it promote women to not live healthy lifestyles or make healthier choices in regards to eating and exercises for permanent weight loss and good health.

What is your body type? How do you work it?

9 Ways to Tell If You Are a Confident Woman


Are you the woman that men love and women admire (sometimes envy)? Find out if you got what it takes to be seen as a confident woman. The type that little girls want to emulate and grown woman want to celebrate and collaborate with! This my friend is when you have achieved Regal Realness. Have regal are you?


1. You know your worth

You recognize that you are REGAL. A woman who is worthy of all good things: good life, good men, good food, good jobs, good shoes, good blessings, etc.

2. You accept yourself flaws and all

You have accepted your REAL self. You know you are not perfect. You know you are flawed yet still beautiful and worthy. You know that your failures, setbacks, mistakes, and past hurts do not define you. Yet, you embrace them, forgive them, heal yourself from them.

3. You look in the mirror and smile

When you look in the mirror you see beauty. You see the most beautiful girl in the world. You are not complaining or fussing in your head or aloud. And if it has to do with your weight, you have recognized that “when you love yourself, your weight will take care of itself.” Thus, you don’t focus most of your time in the mirror on any flaws you may have.

4. You see other women as collaborators rather than competition

You recognize that there will always be someone better then you. But, you don’t see other woman as competition rather you compliment them on their success, and instead seek to collaborate with them and use their talents, strengths, and abilities to enhance your own and vice versa.

5.  You inspire others to want better

When you start inspiring other men and women to want better lives, and to think more highly of themselves then you are empowering people to be more confident.

6. Your presence is obvious and noticed

People recognize you when you speak or enter a room and say no words. A man can recognize your regal realness without you saying a word. This attracts him because he knows he will have to work harder to get a woman who knows who she is and what she wants out of life. If you are unforgettable in a positive way…you are glowing from the inside out!

7. You attract good men

You notice you attract new kinds of men to you. You attract ones who are serious, committed, loyal, respectful, romantic, and possibly interested in marriage. You also recognize how comfortable you are in the presence of men and while in relationships.

8. You take pride in your appearance

You walk out of the house fierce and fly. You rock your own unique style, and you own it! You don’t look run down, sloppy, or all over the place. It is evident you out thought into what you were going to wear, and you put effort into doing your hair for the day. You can tell you love your hair by its baeauty and care. You recognize your body type and pair it with your own style, and dress accordingly. Often times making a fashion statement.

9. You are living your dreams

You are  working towards or living out the life you have always dreamed of. You may help others build their dreams, but you also invest quality time in your own dream or hustle!

What other traits would you add to the list?






Why Black Women Need to Fight for Mental Health

By:  Guest Blogger Michelle Gilliam of Black with the Blues

Since the time we arrived here as slaves, black women have had to continually evolve in order to survive the oppressive forces placed on us. From the Reconstruction Era to the second wave feminist movement in the 1970’s, black women juggled the responsibilities of being the breadwinner and having to tend to stereotypical motherly duties. Even nowadays, many take in nieces, nephews, grandchildren, foster kids, etc.

As matriarchs of our communities, black women have historically been leaders who others rely on for emotional and financial support. For this reason, we should take our responsibilities a step further and lead the fight against mental illness.

As pillars of our communities, we have the strength needed to combat the ignorance and stigma that keeps people from getting the help they need. Because of socioeconomic and psychological factors, black people the rates of mental illness are disproportionately higher than other races in America. Black people make up approximately 25% of the mental health needs in this country though they only make up 12- 13% of the national population!

Untreated mental health is often the reason behind the poor quality of our schools, violence in our streets and the breakdown of our families. Black people, women especially, often believe it is necessary to be strong even during difficult times. Symptoms of certain mental illnesses such as depression and Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD) are often viewed as signs of weakness and poor character. These falsehoods only feed into the stigma causing those affected additional pain.

Just like we remember to attend each school board meeting, and how we always show up at every protest, black women should exercise that same urgency and rally against poor mental health care in our communities. We need to be creative with our strategies, as well. For instance, churches are leading institutions where people turn to for guidance, charity, health care, food and sense of community. How incredible would it be for us to start the dialogue there? Some churches already offer marriage counseling.Why not expand upon that and offer support groups and have licensed mental health professionals donate some of their time?

If our elderly parents become lethargic and withdrawn, it is possible that they aren’t just getting old and may instead be depressed. That “crazy” cousin of ours can very well have an illness associated with paranoia from which they can seek treatment from. Mental illnesses are never contagious, but rarely affect just the person suffering.  The possibilities are endless and we, as black women, can have a huge impact on the state of our community. We truly need to be at the forefront in the fight against mental illness within our communities in order to see a change occur!

Do you agree? Why do you think women try to be strong even during difficult times? How can we change this?

5 Fall 2012 Fashion Trends to Rock NOW!!!

Make your wardrobe pop Regal Girl! These five were chosen because I believed they were the easiest to add to your everyday wardrobe in a cheap and chic way. Here are five fall fashion trends taken straight from the fashion week runway:

1. The Color Red

Nope, not the color purple but my favorite, RED. There were many shades of red that appeared on the runway. Wine red, oxblood,  and burgundy (there all around the same color) appeared the most.

2. Faux Leather

You can’t have Fall without leather, right? Yes! Faux leather appeared the most on the runway. Also, a majority of the leather was black and gave off the vibe that a gothic style was also a trend for this fall, too.

3. Belted Middle of a Dress

Spice up any dress you have that is fitted to the body with a simple belt in the middle.This trend was especially popular with white dresses!

If you want to be fancy—————————————->(above)

(above)<——————————If you want to be a little more casual but still cute

4. Metallic

Shine on this fall girls especially in gold which appeared quite a bit on the runway. You are destined for regal realness when you wear any metallic’s that make you glow like a queen! Metallic accessories are a great addition to any wardrobe: headbands, flats, bags, etc!

Jazz up a little black dress or white cardigan with metallics!!

5. Military Style

Get militant this season especially with the coat you pick for fall or winter. Military inspired coats, dresses, and sweaters are in style honey! P.S. This is one of my favorite trends..I have a military inspired dress, and I love rocking it!!!

Liked this article? Like fashion? Check out:

5 Summer Fashion Trends to Rock Now!

Which trend are you most excited to rock?

Showing Your Boobies Some Love Could Save Your Life

So excited to announce that PINK FRIDAY has arrived! As a proud #BLM girl I am happy to announce my post on Breast Cancer Awareness which is a part of the #BLMGirlsGoPink blog hop. Our goals is to spread awareness to everyone, and join in sisterhood through our blogging!!!

In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month it is important that I share with you some quick tips that could SAVE your life! Whether you are 22, 52 or, 82 breast cancer could happen to YOU especially if you are a woman of color. Although breast cancer is diagnosed less in women of color, if it is detected it is much more aggressive and death rates are significantly higher. This post is a matter of getting REAL about an issue in our community that we often don’t discuss besides this month. Conducting a Breast Self Exam on yourself or by a partner is an essential skill for you to have, and it promotes a stronger connection to your lovely body! Getting in tune with your body beyond your breast is the ultimate goal of a fabulous and empowered women…it means you love yourself because you know yourself and your body! LOVING + CHECKING YOUR BOOBIES = LOVING YOURSELF + YOUR BODY

You should see the doctor soon as possible if you detect any of the following:

-Lump in the breast

-Rash around nipple

-Blood or fluid discharge

-Swollen and thicken skin

-Retracted nipple

If you would like to participate in the #BLMGirlsGoPink blog hop, here are the rules:
  • Link up your blog by clicking and adding a breast cancer awareness related post you wrote on your blog. Click here: to link your blog post. 
  • Visit other blogs that link up, and leave comments if you read something you like.
  • Show some blogger love by following a blog and/or the blogger on social media.
  • Spread the word on Twitter, Facebook, and all other social media.

9 Beauty Tips & Tricks to Keep You GLO’ing This Fall

My favorite season has arrived—Fall! As the leaves turn colors and the weather gets cooler it is imperative that us, girls keep our GLO during this beautiful time of year. Here are a few of my favorite tips and tricks from head to toe:

1. Avoid taking really hot showers as the heat tends to dry skin which eliminates your glow
2. Add olive oil to bath water to be a skin softener and to hair to keep it moisturized daily
3. Give your body lotion a boost as it gets cooler by adding in baby oil, use a thicker lotion (such as Eucerin) or buy a baby oil gel product (such as Johnson’s Baby Oil Gel)

See the rest of the  list over at GoodLooknOut:

Guest Post Published on GOOD LOOKN OUT BLOG by my girl Marie #BLM!