Three Winter 2013 Fashion Trends to Rock NOW!

Naomi Campbell..stunning and regal!

Naomi Campbell..stunning and regal!

It is cold outside! Fur is always in for winter, but find out what is in for 2013. Start your new year off: FABULOUSLY AND FASHIONABLY! Here are three winter fashion trends to rock now on any budget girls!

Oversized Coats

These larger then life coats ripped through the runway at fashion week. If you want to stay up with the trends you will invest in one. Examples include parkas, ponchos, wide shoulder jackets, long coats, oversized collars, and draped fronts.  



 Thick heel pumps, booties, and thigh high boots are in for the season. As I continue on my quest to find the perfect boot for me I will keep this trend in mind!

Leisure Suits

From Beyonce to the runway suits in untraditional and traditional colors are popping up. Reminds of 1960’s/1970’s fashion. This is an informal and casual get up. If both top and bottom are too much pattern for you….try pairing the bottoms with a solid color top. Look out for this trend to pop up during spring and summer, too….PATTERNS ARE IN! These suits are also oversized and can be solid or patterned.

Which of these is your favorite?

Boost Your Apperance Girl: 3 Ways to Dress for Your Body Type

563152_261406470622140_164807823615339_508066_2060571542_n I’ve always been a curvy girl, but in recent years I have gained a pound too many if you catch my drift. Now while I am absolutely in love with myself and in the process of switching to a healthier lifestyle; I still love to look fabulous regardless of what size I am. There are tips and tricks to doing this, and you might find them helpful too if you are in the same boat as me. Note: This is not a substitute for living a healthy lifestyle!


Slip on a body shaper! Get fitted for bras. Most women are wearing the wrong size bra!!!

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 I will be honest neither one are cheap of they are of GOOD QUALITY! My best ones cost anywhere from $25-$30 but they work wonders!! You can find them in most large department stores in the under garment section. You  Kohl’s and Sears have affordable prices for everyday women.

Some ladies refuse to squeeze into body shapers these due to comfort-ability but to that I say: suck it up!  Giggle! No really. You will get use to it over time, and you fall in love with the instant slimming you see in the mirror. P.S. You don’t have to wear one everyday.

This is my body type. I love it! I have mastered how to rock curves with let's figure out your type....

This is my body type. I love it! I have mastered how to rock curves with let’s figure out your type….

WORK YOUR BODY TYPE: Assess Which One You Are?

Do a GOOGLE search for the best items to fit your body type. For example, I have a whole lot of hips! So I know that I am a pear shape. So I found this picture to show me a visual of celebs with my same body type:

This gives me an easy way to search for clothes and pictures that would look the most flattering on my body!

 Take the Body Type Quiz to determine your body type!

So all in all, muffin tops are not cute nor are too small clothes. Neither are you trying to wear all the latest fads and trends if they don’t look good on your body type. But, the key to looking your best always is to work what you got—but in a classy way!


:::BONUS::: — Here is a great episode of Dr. Oz Secrets of Plus Sized Models where Plus Size models discuss their secrets to looking fabulous and slim at any size!!! They offer some really good tips and tricks girls!

Disclaimer: This post is meant for short term use, and in no way shape or form does it promote women to not live healthy lifestyles or make healthier choices in regards to eating and exercises for permanent weight loss and good health.

What is your body type? How do you work it?

7 Decorating Ideas to Make Your Bedroom Fit For a Queen


Few people know this about me but, one thing I really love is interior designing. Love it!  Every regal woman may not have a home fit for a queen on the outside, a room to themselves, or even a place to call your own quite yet, but that does not mean that you can’t have a space where you live that is fit for a queen! Making your bedroom your sanctuary will be a decision you will be glad you made on those days when you return to your humble abode.

You deserve a space that embodies the real you, and makes you feel like a regal queen when you enter!  

See pictures at the end of post for ideas!!!!!!

Here are seven ways to turn your bedroom into your sanctuary:


You will never get a room fit for a queen if there is stuff everywhere! First things first…clean up and toss out everything you don’t need. This includes a closet clean out day….donate your stuff to a place like Goodwill.


Select the theme you want for your room: modern feel, purple and gold, vintage style, fashionista central, etc (make it authentic to you!). If you share, consult with the other person and select something that gets you both…COMPROMISE!


Let’s face it: white walls can be boring….painting can spice up any room. Keep in mind that different colors produce different moods and effects.


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 4.   COVER UP!

If you haven’t already, purchase at least two sheet sets with matching comforters that represent your theme and/or compliment your paint. Something as simple as having matching sheets and comforter can change your perception of your room. Mixed match sets will make you feel mixed up yourself believe it or not. There is a certain peace that comes with having a coordinating bed set.

 5. MOVE IT!

Move your furniture around. I use to do this faithfully, and it does shift your perspective on your room…makes it feel new and fresh. Or purchase some new pieces! Goodwill is a very inexpensive place to get some new furniture to spice up your room.


Make your room more intimate and personal by purchasing smaller lamp(s) or other lighting fixtures to go in your room instead of using the big light on the ceiling all the time.


Add personal touches throughout your room that add to your theme! This includes pictures, posters, portraits, additional furniture, stylish curtains, items to go on top of a dresser, places to put your jewelry and organize your shoes, etc. THESE LITTLE TOUCHES MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE BECAUSE THEY REPRESENT YOU!!!

How you feel in this space will determine your mood!

Your bedroom (heck, your whole house) should be a place of total peace and relaxation! It should feel like home sweet home.

What do you do to personalize your bedroom or house?

9 Ways to Tell If You Are a Confident Woman


Are you the woman that men love and women admire (sometimes envy)? Find out if you got what it takes to be seen as a confident woman. The type that little girls want to emulate and grown woman want to celebrate and collaborate with! This my friend is when you have achieved Regal Realness. Have regal are you?


1. You know your worth

You recognize that you are REGAL. A woman who is worthy of all good things: good life, good men, good food, good jobs, good shoes, good blessings, etc.

2. You accept yourself flaws and all

You have accepted your REAL self. You know you are not perfect. You know you are flawed yet still beautiful and worthy. You know that your failures, setbacks, mistakes, and past hurts do not define you. Yet, you embrace them, forgive them, heal yourself from them.

3. You look in the mirror and smile

When you look in the mirror you see beauty. You see the most beautiful girl in the world. You are not complaining or fussing in your head or aloud. And if it has to do with your weight, you have recognized that “when you love yourself, your weight will take care of itself.” Thus, you don’t focus most of your time in the mirror on any flaws you may have.

4. You see other women as collaborators rather than competition

You recognize that there will always be someone better then you. But, you don’t see other woman as competition rather you compliment them on their success, and instead seek to collaborate with them and use their talents, strengths, and abilities to enhance your own and vice versa.

5.  You inspire others to want better

When you start inspiring other men and women to want better lives, and to think more highly of themselves then you are empowering people to be more confident.

6. Your presence is obvious and noticed

People recognize you when you speak or enter a room and say no words. A man can recognize your regal realness without you saying a word. This attracts him because he knows he will have to work harder to get a woman who knows who she is and what she wants out of life. If you are unforgettable in a positive way…you are glowing from the inside out!

7. You attract good men

You notice you attract new kinds of men to you. You attract ones who are serious, committed, loyal, respectful, romantic, and possibly interested in marriage. You also recognize how comfortable you are in the presence of men and while in relationships.

8. You take pride in your appearance

You walk out of the house fierce and fly. You rock your own unique style, and you own it! You don’t look run down, sloppy, or all over the place. It is evident you out thought into what you were going to wear, and you put effort into doing your hair for the day. You can tell you love your hair by its baeauty and care. You recognize your body type and pair it with your own style, and dress accordingly. Often times making a fashion statement.

9. You are living your dreams

You are  working towards or living out the life you have always dreamed of. You may help others build their dreams, but you also invest quality time in your own dream or hustle!

What other traits would you add to the list?






Scandal: Why More Women of Color Need to be Running the Show


It has been so refreshing and also in some ways weird to watch Kerry Washington as Olivia Pope on a major, mainstream television show watched by millions of all backgrounds. Don’t get me wrong I have seen plenty of shows with mostly cast of color with a leading lady of color, but a major television show like Scandal is a little different. The fact there hasn’t been one since the sitcom Julia in the early 1970’s is mind blowing. Honestly, it is scandalous that this is even a fact. It took that long!


Notable for being one of the first weekly series to depict an African American woman in a non-stereotypical role

Another fact is that Olivia certainly represents for the ladies! She represents an authenticity that is unparalleled to any other show starring a black woman that I’ve ever seen. Additionally, she shines with such regal realness in every scene which leaves viewers like, “Well, damn Liv!”

Olivia’s presence is so powerful. We need her on there moving and shaking through DC. We need more women of color on major television shows period! Olivia cannot be our only example, although she is a damn good one. Little girls, teen girls, and real woman with or without color need to see themselves as powerful, regal, and in control of their lives like Liv. Just look at her: olivia-pope-scandal-kerry-washington

Too often we hear all of the negatives attributed to women, and in the age of reality TV we sometimes can get the WRONG ideals of what it really means to be a lady, to be professional, to be beautiful without showing all of your body, to handle situations without a brawl and throwing the b-word, to show oneself as multitalented and to be damn good at what we do that doesn’t involve sex, money, drugs, or being fame hungry!

Shonda sure can write! But, Shonda wasn’t the only one gifted with this talent. You might have it in you to write the next great show starring a leading lady of color. Not sure if I have it in me. But, I have always dreamed of having my own television network for women of color that had programming just for us. A show like Scandal would be on the line up. But, would people even watch?

People have been so accustomed to shows like Basketball Wives that a network with regal woman doing real things in a positive way may not make the cut. It may be too boring! At least this is what viewers say in regards to positive programming on BET that consistently gets very low ratings!

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Basketball Wives LA

When will we break out of this World Star Hip Hop mentality where it is okay to be a basketball wife with no husband, or in a street brawl that is posted on the internet, or even put others down just to obtain 15 seconds of fame on TV. All of that nonsense is ignorance at its best. This seems more like the show is running you versus you running your own show.

Real living comes from knowing who you are and owning that. Olivia Pope is my definition of a regal realness woman who rocks all that she got. She knows she is worthy, but she is not perfect…none of us are. Although the show is entertainment (just like the others mentioned) what we choose to feed ourselves on a daily basis it what we become. I choose to be Ms. Pope any day over the other nonsense I see. More women of color on the little and big screens is needed, necessary and long overdue!

SignatureWhat do you think?

Must Have Curly Hair Products + CURLKIT!


I am a product junkie! I have been trying out product after product for YEARS!!! Especially when it comes to my hair. For years, I struggled to find the right products to get the shine and defined curls I’ve always imagined. Not until now after a full year of intense and consistent trial and error have I found products that really work and make me look so regal!!!

I am hype in case you can’t tell! Finding the right products for your hair is not only a journey but it can be a challenge!!! I have found my new curly loves and in the process found out a great way to try out samples of products at a low cost! Without further ado allow me to introduce these products:

And of course I think you should give them a shot if you haven’t already!!! FYI girls, I am in no way shape or form being paid to share this experience or recommend these products. These are prodcts you may have or may have not seen before which will depend on your natural hair product knowledge (aka whether you are a junkie or not already!) Also, some of these products can be used on relaxed or natural hair, curly, kinky, or straight.

As I Am Products

Coconut Cowash Cleansing Conditioner–Great for shampooing mid week with product build up!! It smells heavenly! I don’t use as a cowash though.


Curling Jelly– Love, love it!

It has defined my curls so well! I just love it…the texture is a little slimy and it should be washed out after about 2-3 days due to build up and possible flaking.

Looking to define your curls more? This is WORTH trying!


Curl Kit

My first one just arrived in the mail! This is a paid subscription for only $20 a month to get a box full of hair goodies! Some are sample and others are full sized products for you to try out and see how they work for your hair. It saves a ton of money, and it is a great way to sample products monthly. Here is a picture of the box I received which included: Crazy Sexy Cool Curls, Aunt Jackie Knot on My Watch Detangle Theraphy, Ur Curly Curl Enhancers, III Sisters of Nature Natural Lengthening Creme, Ily Beauty Adore Leave-In Conditioner, Nice and Curly Curl Me Up Curly Pudding, and a brown flower hair tie. So I will see how these products work for my curly top.

Get 10% off when you order, here is the code:

December 2012 CurlKit

December 2012 CurlKit


I tried the 100% Olive Oil and loved it too…it I use a mositurizer with it and it worked wonders. Sometimes I pair a little with the As I Am Curling Jelly and my curls really sing!!!  This is a really inexpensive product that works great with wash and gos.


Ultra Black Hair

UBH Deep Conditioner —Love it! It works wonders!! I can instantly feel the difference right after using it.

UBH Creme Satin Moisturizer– Love it too! I use this on a daily basis.

P.S. Plus I have the book too which is great info for having healthy hair!


Products I Still Want to Try:


Enjoyed this post? You might also like:

5 Things I Learned About Growing Black Hair

I Like it Kinky and Messy, How About You?

Have you used any of these? What were your results?

What are your favorite products?

Ready to Live Life Like It’s Golden in 2013


At this particular point in my life I am ready to kick some ass! No, not like that…but like that! Like I am ready to stop making excuses, punch fear in the face, and kick ass into gear…making the next year of my life the best year of my life.

I am sick and tired. Sick and tired of letting fear guide what I do and don’t do. Fear is a you know what. Quite frankly, it pisses me off. I am ready to kick it to the curb for the time being. I am ready to make some changes.

Surviving just doesn’t get it for me. I need to thrive. I need to feel like I put in my very best. I need to feel like I have enough and more to give to others…now that is thriving. Like Maya says do it with STYLE!

I give you permission right now. If I look the same a year from now. If my hair is the exact same. If I am the exact same way in one year in any area of my life….please kick my you know what because that means I did absolutely nothing to achieve my goals and witness my dreams unfold. Honey, I am declaring it now. In 2013 I will be living my life like it is golden-er. My life is already pretty sweet…I am pretty blessed and favored, but there is still more that I envision for myself. Where I am now is only the beginning.

I am currently clipping pictures and words from magazines in order to create a vision board for myself!!! In fact, I am hosting a vision board challenge with other women who would like to also create boards and be reminded daily to go after their dreams! Sign up if you are up for the challenge

Surviving is easy. Thriving is hard work. It is patience. It is having time to have style. It is passion on fire. It is humor at its best. I am ready to kick all of my fear’s ass and step into an even better ME! Whoa! I am getting excited just talking about it. This time next year you will witness many before and afters from me because I do not plan on being the same EXACT me I am right now.

2012 brought me so many choices, changes, and challenges that led to greatness and important growth! Now, I am looking forward to using my growth season from 2012 to be my grind season in 2013. 2013 you will find me on my grind in every area in my life! Mark my word…a golden life I shall live (in my Jill voice of course)!!!


Will you live life like it’s golden in 2013?

Join 2013 Vision Board Challenge!!!



You are invited to the event of the year! Regal Realness is hosting its first REGAL GIRL CHALLENGE! The purpose of this challenge is to bring women of color together for a common cause that in turn helps them make their lives better! As we exit 2012 and welcome 2013 I want to ensure that you are entering this next year on the right foot, with a vision in my mind and goals set in place.

There is no reason why you can’t have the life you have always dreamed of and more! Zora Neale Hurtson said it best, “There will be years that question and years that answer.” I want 2013 to be your year that answers! Your year of YOU!

Your year to get your money right, the man of your dreams or improve your relationship, make a stronger connection with your faith, your year to finish school, get a promotion, or start a new career. Whatever it may be that you need. I want to be sure that you and I get it! You deserve it lady!

So…do you believe in The Secret? According to The Secret, which involves the law of attraction is the belief that everything that you want is possible if you envision it first. It follows the cliché: If you can see it, you can be it, if you believe it, you can achieve it. Therefore, if you are a believer then I hope you accept my invitation.


When: December 15, 2012 – December 15, 2013
Where: Online

What is a vision board?

A vision board is a collage of images, pictures and affirmations of your dreams and desires.

How does this challenge work?

1. You sign up for the challenge here:

2. Create your vision board (Dec 15-Dec 31, 2012) and send it to me: Board will be posted on our site: as a form of accountability to remind us of the visions we have for the year.

Materials Needed: Make it online, with Microsoft Word or PPT, or use a poster board with magazine clippings, markers, pictures, etc

Board Categories: Health, Finances, Relationships, Career/Work, Dreams/Passions, Social Life, etc

3. Make vision board your desktop background or put it in a highly visible place in your house/bedroom/office

How do I accept the challenge and sign up?

Sign up here:

*Giveaway opportunity, too*

How will I make my vision a reality?

You will get an e-mail once a month with a task to remind you to view your board and take action.

Grab button if you have a blog or website too!

Grab button if you have a blog or website too!
See sidebar for code.


Also, read Do you believe in The Secret? Making 2013 the Year of YOU!!! for more on the Secret and sample vision boards!

Do you believe in The Secret? Making 2013 the Year of YOU!!!

thesecret    The Secret is an ancient concept. It is not new by any means. It has stirred great controversy for some, particularly the religious. The question is, do you believe in the secret? According to The Secret, which involves the law of attraction is the belief that everything that you want is possible if you envision it first. It follows the cliché: If you can see it, you can be it, if you believe it, you can achieve it.

There is truth to the secret, except it really isn’t a secret at all since people have known this for centuries. So then why is it called the secret? Perhaps because most people fail to believe in it. I for one, believe it, wholeheartedly. I have seen its power. Most likely because I am a dreamer. I am a doer. I am a thinker. I am an achiever. I believe inside and out that I am great. I believe strongly that I am to be loved, respected, wealthy, and thankful! I believe all people should live good lives, and that all people can be great. I’ve always believed that. Maybe that’s why I am a teacher by day and a women empowerment blogger by night. It is all aligned because I believed it, I prayed about it, I worked towards it, and because I ENVISIONED IT!


It is my belief that thoughts become things. Thoughts are real! The fact that you can visualize in your head how people look or act or how what I read in a book looks in real life is not a coincidence. The fact that tons of women envision what their ideal man will be like or the wedding day is not a coincidence. Though we get mad if we don’t get that. That doesn’t mean the secret is failing us. That means we have not aligned our thoughts with our core values and beliefs. It means we are not being totally REAL with ourselves. I am guilty of this in certain areas of my life such as my health whereas other areas such as my career I am a rock star at this!

Anything you want to change about your life can be done! It all starts with you. It starts with you recognize the not so secret to having anything you want in life. This simply means you need to get clear with yourself about WHO YOU ARE and WHAT OU REALLY WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE LIKE. Then visualize it!

What do you look like at your ideal weight?

What does your future husband look like?

At your day job, how do you really want to feel?

When you look at your bank account, what do the numbers look like?

A goal is just a wish until it is written down, and without a vision the people perish. Perish no more my friend!

Get with it in 2013. Hell, why not start now!

Regal Realness will be starting its first Regal Girl Challenge:

“2013 Vision Board Challenge” in one week!

Join our e-mail list in order to be a part of it:

Look out for an e-mail with more information!!!


Vision Board: A vision board is a collage of images, pictures and affirmations of your dreams and desires



When you actually let your dreams out and put it to paper you would be amazed at what you accomplish!


Are you up for the challenge?

Are you ready to unleash all of your SECRET dreams and desires to the world so you can start making BIG moves in 2013?