Are You Ready to Detox Your Mind, Body, and Soul for a Healthier Life?

What does detox mean to you? What do you need to let go of this year in order to live a fabulous and empowered life?

Detox to me is letting things go. Giving things up. Moving forward. Divorcing self from the past, and marrying the future!

Where I Went Wrong

This is my hope for the new year. Tomorrow I will officially start a lifestyle change. I am starting a journey to better my health and life. This is something I have wanted to do for a while, but just was not in the right mental space to do it. Two years ago I worked with a nutritionist, worked out daily, and changed my eating for 3 months. I saw no results so I gave up! Then I went on to rapidly gain 40 pounds in about 6-8 months, which you can imagine was really weird! Can you imagine how I felt?

Ready to Let Go

I am officially ready to let go of all of that excess baggage. If you want to fly, you must let go of the s@!*% that weighs you down! I’ve said this before in a previous post on finding the love I deserved. The same is true here. If I want to fly I mean really FLY then I must give something up to get to the life I want.  To get to my happy, healthy, whole place (which is where regal realness lies).

Why I Chose My Health FIRST!

My mind FINALLY changed for four reasons: I’ve been wanting a total body makeover from head to toe for years now, the new year is here,starting my natural hair journey last summer prompted me to want to be just as mindful as what I put on my head as what I put into my body, and starting this blog as made me want to be an even better woman! I decided I wanted to love my body even more than I already do. When you love your body, it loves you back.


Biggest Loser!  

Therefore, tomorrow marks the first day of a fitness challenge I have joined with my blogger friends. It is called the BLM Fitness Challenge, which lasts from Jan 7-April 7, 2013. Participants all entered with $10 (money collected will be given to the biggest loser–which I hope will be me) and you can use any method you want to get fit!!!

Lose Weight Without Dieting or Working Out

I have chosen to use JJ Smith’s DEM (Detox, Eat, and Move) System. Last summer, I purchased her book, Lose Weight Without Dieting or Working Out, read it, and swept in under a rug somewhere. A month ago I pulled it back out, re-read it and now I’M READY! Yesterday, I stocked up on everything I need for the 3 week DETOX phase  (including supplements, green drink mix, protein shake mix, fresh fruits & veggies, whole grain everything, nuts, oils, etc) and ordered additional items from

Check out the cover here (peep this…JJ is in her 40’s and she looks so good!)


I am so glad I am doing this NOW! It really took this long for me to make a change because I had to mentally embrace this lifestyle change, and fully want it more then anything else. I WANT IT! I am committed! I will chart my journey on here, and I will share new healthy and good recipes I make.

This Journey Is Really About You As Much As It Is About Me

This journey is about more than me. It is allowing me to detox my body and rid it of toxins, and then allowing me to provide it with nutritious, clean and balanced, whole, and healthy foods that fuel my body. It is also allowing me to detox my mind and soul. Allowing me to let go off any addictions to food present, any emotional baggage that needs to go, and anything else they may be holding me back as a result of my weight.

It is also allowing me to be an example! My ultimate goal is to become healthy and fabulous while inspiring other women of color to give this journey a try. As I share I hope to inspire you. As I share I hope to encourage you. As I share I hope to break down everything  to educate you.  I hope to go through trial and error to make even (clean and balance) eating seem tasty for you! I simply want you to know that if I can do it and achieve so can you.

This health journey is for me and it is for you. Stay tuned for more!

Inspirational Websites I Love and Recommend:

Black Girl’s Guide to Weight Loss, Black Women Losing Weight, Black Weight Loss Success, and  Dr. Oz    offers many tips and even a TV show!


Do you have health or fitness goals for this year?

What methods are you using?

Have you ever felt like me before?

Finding Love in a HopeFUL Place: Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance

“When you know better, you do better.” –Maya Angelou

I wouldn’t call myself lucky. However, I will say I am blessed. I will say once I got smarter, I got better love! It is has been a very rocky yet rewarding road to finding true love for me. I am happy to be in a great relationship that I know will take me to places I never imagined, and add to my life joys I’ve only dreamed of. It is with this I offer you some words of wisdom that I have learned along the way through trial and error, reading, researching, and experience.

Finding love is something we all desire! It is a human thing. It is a God thing. We all desire to be connected to other people. This is both normal and natural! I have learned that if you want to find love in a hopeful place that you have to be in a hopeful state. You have to be in a place where you have your stuff together in order to add another’s on. The Top 15 Lessons I’ve Learned about LOVE:

  1. Loving and Accepting Yourself is the FIRST STEP to LOVE!
  2. Know What Type of Relationship You Want beca
  3.  Standards Are Necessary and Needed
  4.  Being Open Makes it Easier
  5.  Not Healing Holds Us Back from Great Things   
  6.  Preparation brings Rewards
  7.  Baggage Weighs You Down
  8. Friendship in Love is a Must!
  9. You Need More Than Love once the “Honeymoon” Phase fades
  10. Compromise is Essential  
  11. Great Men are Everywhere…Open Your Eyes!
  12. Having a Life of Your Own is a Must!
  13. Relationships and Marriage Take Work
  14. Your Partner Should Compliment, Not Complete You
  15. Being Single is the Perfect Time to Heal, Learn, and Prepare for a Relationship

If you want to succeed in love it is a matter of first loving yourself. Loving and accepting yourself is one of the hardest things to do. But, it can be done. Second, if you want to find love in a hopeful place it is important that you LEARN how to do love and make relationships work. It is not normal or natural for you to know how to make something a success if you haven’t learned how to.  This is one of the biggest mistakes in being single, entering relationships, and entering into marriages. One quote that stuck with me the most from marriage counselor Gary Chapman, author of Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married, was “Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation then they do for marriage.” One of the most revolutionary quotes I’ve ever heard. Hands down I think this is the biggest mistake people make when it comes to love. No preparation and lack of education. Reason why we spend years in high school and college, and do our jobs well but not our relationships. Most of us think relationships and dating should be natural and should just work….wrong! It doesn’t work like that. It works best when you are proactive and not reactive.

I barely scratched the surface with this post there is so much more to share. But, I would urge you to remain HOPEFUL and not HOPELESS about love. There is way too much love to go around in the world for that.  Even if you are young and don’t want a relationship right now it wouldn’t hurt to start learning about relationships now. Maya Angelou said it best, “Once you know better, you do better.” She is so right! Take it from a girl who learned and did better…giggle. Have questions or thoughts…post below.

Start on your love journey today, regardless of your age or stage (single, dating, engaged, newlywed, married,)…

Some my favorite and highly recommended resources:

Demetria Lucas– A Belle In Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life

Gary ChapmanFive Love Languages & Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

Paul Brunson, Modern Day Matchmaker on twitter @PaulCBrunson

Rori Raye

Shay the Date DIVADIVA Don’t Get Played: A Single Women’s Dating Guide to Catching the Man of Her Dreams in 30 Days at

Serita Jakes Books- The Princess Within and Beside Every Good Man

Kenya K StevensChange Your Man: How to Become the Woman He Wants/

Carl E StevensTame Your Woman: Be the Man She Needs You to Be

JJ Smith– Why I Love Men: The Joys of Dating 

Tony GaskinMrs. Right: A woman’s guide to becoming and remaining a wife

Michelle Leahy1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

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